You look like you have it together.
But inside, you’re tired in a way rest hasn’t touched.
- You’re the dependable one.
- The capable one.
- The one who keeps things moving, holds people together, and figures it out.
And yet, somewhere along the way, you started feeling disconnected from yourself.
- Decisions feel heavier than they should.
- You overthink, second-guess, and quietly wonder why everything feels like so much work.
If that sounds familiar, I want you to know something right away.
There’s nothing wrong with you.
hi there,
I'm Raina
And before I ever helped women come back to themselves, I had to find my own way home first.
I know what it’s like to lose yourself while trying to be everything for everyone.
I grew up as a deeply sensitive child in a world that didn’t quite know what to do with that. Early on, I learned how to read rooms, adapt, and become who others needed me to be. That skill looked like strength from the outside, but inside it slowly taught me to abandon myself.
By my teens and early adulthood, I was carrying more than anyone realized.
I looked composed. Capable. In control.
But beneath the surface, anxiety and depression were quietly taking over.
I became very good at wearing masks.
So good, in fact, that even I forgot who I was underneath them.
Trying to hold it all together eventually cost me my mental health. And while that chapter of my life was painful, it also became the beginning of something honest. It forced me to stop performing and start listening.
Not to everyone else.
But to myself.
Everything changed when I stopped fighting myself and started getting curious.
What I eventually realized was this.
I wasn’t broken.
I was disconnected.
The anxiety, the exhaustion, the constant self-doubt.
They weren’t flaws to fix.
They were parts of me trying to keep me safe the only way they knew how.
When I learned how to meet those parts with compassion instead of control, something softened. I stopped living from depletion and started building trust with myself again. I learned how to replenish first, then give from overflow instead of self-sacrifice.
That path eventually led me to Internal Family Systems, a framework that put language and structure to what I had been discovering intuitively for years. It didn’t ask me to become someone new. It helped me come back to who I already was.
This is the work I now guide other women through.
Today, I work with high-achieving women who are exhausted from holding it all together. Women who have done everything they were “supposed” to do, yet still feel stuck in survival mode.
- Together, we slow things down.
- We listen beneath the noise.
- We untangle the patterns that keep you over-giving, over-functioning, and overthinking.
This isn’t about pushing harder or fixing yourself.
It’s about building self-trust, learning how to stay connected to yourself under pressure, and creating a life that actually feels like yours.
My approach is grounded, compassionate, and deeply human. I don’t believe in hustle-as-healing or performative empowerment. I believe in safety, clarity, and helping you feel at home in yourself again.
What people often tell me now
I’m often told I’m one of the most grounded, compassionate, and non-judgmental people they know.
I believe that now.
Because I know myself.
All of me.
And I’m no longer afraid of being seen.
That’s the kind of confidence I want for you.
Not loud or performative.
But calm, steady, and deeply rooted.
If you’re here, you don’t need to have it all figured out.
You just need to be willing to listen.
If something in you is quietly saying, “I want to feel like myself again,” you’re in the right place.
You’re welcome to explore my work, join one of my experiences, or simply stay close for a while.
You don’t have to do this alone anymore.
Always in your corner,
Raina